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Saturday, July 03, 2004
Bear in mind i do not live at home and had only briefly heard from my bro another fight had occured. she is so worried i'll side with my brother, she had to get her defense thesis out to me asap, though she hasnt even talked to me in a few weeks! Here is the end of the crazy-assed 5 kb email she sent out of the blue yesterday:

When children come to the stage of defying the parents, it is a sign that
they should move on on their own. It is not that I kicked any of you out.
Dad and I were bending forward and backward trying to keep you guys as long
as we could at home so that you can finish your education. Isn’t it much
easier for us if you move out as soon as you finish high school?

When I asked you to chip in $350 for room and board because I assumed that
with the help of your student loan [ nice try, but i applied for the student loan AFTER u gave me the ultimatum to move out.]

and tutoring money, it is not a whole lot
to ask you to help out the family when Dad’s EI was drying up. Family is
made to help each other when it is needed. And it is good for you to take
some responsibility of yourself in your last year of university. [ she keeps saying she had planned for a long time that i would support myself in the last year of university. in reality, she decided i would move out the night of the incident, and pretend it was her wise plan all along. assuming i would be living there in the last year of university, i was in no way financially prepared to move out. i had about $75 to my name. They did not provide any of the $2000 the goverment budgeted as 'parental contribution.' As such, after living like a bum for the past year, not buying SHAMPOO because I wanted to be sure I could make rent, holding a few sketchy p/t jobs that didnt pay me, and studying fulltime, I am now left with a VISA bill bigger than my bank account as I desperately jobhunt.]

Howbeit, when you chose your freedom more important, I had not opposed you, we were
glad to help you on your way [ yeah, helping me by glaring at me from across the room as I asked dad for advice on renting a basement suite during those two weeks of silent treatment? Leaving the nest is supposed to be a happy time and you made it one of my worst memories ever].

It is perfectly ok for children to move out on their own in peaceful terms.
It is part of growing up, as long as they understand what parents have done
for them instead of viewing parents trying to pick fights and restricting
their freedom. [ what about the right to friends and healthy relationships? i won't even mention the lengths she went to cut off some of our FRIENDS because she hated them. my best friend in highschool, minh, and my brother's good friend jeff.. she hated. and made it known. and the friendships suffocated because of it.]

I would rather that whatever you guys do did not border me.
But it pretty well have to be that I become a vegetable or a being without a
conscience. [ so our having friends, bf's and gf's bothers you and makes you feel like a vegetable?]

In that case why would I bother to live? [ this part freaks me out a bit; she can be so incredibly psychotic]

In all our hope, we wish both of you will not fall into the snare of the evil one who wears the mask of deception in the body of beautiful beings. [ right. kids, this is what happens when you mix your lithium prescription with your stash of special k.]

We would give up our lives for the two of you if we have to so that you may walk on the right path and experience a wonderful life.